Love is one of the most powerful emotions we experience, yet it remains one of the most fleeting. When we are in love, we believe in forever. We tell ourselves that this connection is different and that what we share will withstand the test of time. We hold hands, make promises, and build a future together, but sometimes, even the most profound connections unravel.
Gotye’s song Somebody That I Used to Know captures this paradox beautifully. Two people who once shared intimacy and vulnerability suddenly become strangers. How does this happen? How does someone who knew your deepest thoughts, fears, and joys suddenly become a ghost of the past, someone you no longer speak to?
It’s strange how relationships function. When we are together, we see love as a certainty. We weave dreams into reality, making each moment count, only for it to dissolve into memories when love fades. Breakups often bring silence, a void where laughter and conversation once existed. We go from being each other’s everything to being nothing at all.
But what if we reframed it? Instead of bitterness, what if we saw it as something beautiful that ran its course? Maybe love is not about permanence but presence—the joy of the moments we shared, the lessons learned, the growth experienced. We often look back at failed relationships with sadness, regret, or even anger, but what if we let them be what they were: beautiful, meaningful, and temporary?
Perhaps love is not meant to be owned but experienced. People come into our lives to teach us something, to share a chapter in our story. And when that chapter ends, it does not erase its worth. The love was real, even if it didn’t last.
So, rather than holding onto pain or resentment, I think of it as something we had that was beautiful in its own way. And that, in itself, is enough.
Yes, very much so; I realize I may never find someone. Somehow, I should live to enjoy learning and helping others rather than wanting something so-called “love.”
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